This is a really important tip for extended family members. Let's face it, it is hard to "talk" to someone that is less verbal. The usual greetings, and small talk that we use to include other children, simply won't work. Most of the time when we are around kids, that we are only slightly acquainted with, we have an arsenal of questions ready, "hi, what's your name, how old are you, where do you go to school?" All of which are great, but are of very little help to someone who is "less verbal." I often find parents awkwardly asking Cotton these questions, and then I, equally as awkward answer them for him, or I prompt him to answer them. Either way both parties feel a little....well...awkward.
Back when we were doing RDI, the program suggested making statements to kids with communication issues, instead of asking questions. This is genius in my opinion. So when greeting someone with communication issues you would say "Hey it is great to see you!" Instead of "Hey, how are you?" You can comment on what they are doing ie..."Wow, Cotton look how big your leaf pile is," instead of "What are you doing with those leaves?" Think of saying things that don't require an answer, IF the child is able to comment, they will. If not, they will not feel pressure to do so, but will probably appreciate being noticed. If the parent, or sibling tells you something about their child/sibling, bring it up "Your mom says you're ready to go back to school next week," or "your brother said you hate green beans, my son does too!" The person with communication issues, may not even appear to notice, but BELIEVE me the people that love them will!
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